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UWChucky wrote:

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Here's my take, not as graphic as Necka, but generally on the same line of thinking. Women who work hard to be beautiful want men to tell them how beautiful they are and want men to be attracted to them because of their beauty. The most likely category of men that will constantly tell them that they are beautiful are the assholes.

I would never categorize these truths about all (or even most) women though. The ones that spend the most time making themselves beautiful are the ones that are the most insecure and need constant affirmation of their beauty. So they end up with assholes. If finding a hot woman is your goal in life, all I can say is be careful what you ask for.

Chucky is on to something here. Most of the women in question are attracted to confidence. Going up and telling a woman that she's beautiful, alluring, etc. takes that characteristic and if there's one thing that assholes have in spades, it's confidence (a swagger, if you will ). However, not all confident men are assholes and because of the these assholes, they are often caught in the crossfire and laid to waste.

You see, seeing that these women are attracted to a self-assured man, when they encounter a man that is such and not an asshole, they almost automatically assume that he is an asshole but is really good at hiding it. Their curiosity leads them to become interested and thus, start to dig deeper into what makes up the man in question. However, seeing that the man is not an asshole, the woman's curiosity becomes heightened and they continue their quest and often times find themselves going deeper and deeper for the sake of their misguided quest. The man in question, usually allows this because, knowing that the woman has been burned before, this is part of the courting process if he wants to achieve his holy grail: the trust of the woman. Inexorably, the woman will grow frustrated with her quest and will go into a panic that brings out a string of erratic emotional outbursts.

What is strange is that the woman is often times attracted to the one thing that she's lacking: confidence. Seeing that the man is not an asshole, she begins to think that she's not worth a man treating her with the respect and honor that all women deserve. Apropos, she continues her downward spiral and begins the hunt for a man that is an asshole because she believes in her twisted logic that it is what she truly deserves. Again, caught in the fallout is the non-asshole man, as he has, more often than not, become smitten with this crazy individual and makes his quest to save her from this path. Though honorable, the man's quest is a fool-hardy one that often times leads to deep sadness and a general feeling of fuck.

The only hope for the non-asshole, confident man is that he finds a woman that will "buy into what he's selling" and decides that she is worth this treatment and decides that she wants the man in question to provide this for her. It is a quest that many look at as a fruitless endevor, but one that the man never gives up on, usually because of simutaneously his greatest and weakest characteristic: HOPE.

At least, that's my take on it.